Why do we tend to define multidimensional things in simplistic terms?
A relationship is considered a ‘success’ if it never ends, but a ‘failure’ if it does. Thus minimalising all the happiness found therein simply by the outcome.
We do the same with people, needing to categorize them as either good or bad.
Do you remember that quote by Harvey Dent in The Dark Knight?
He said with incredible foresight:
‘You either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain.’
My point is that the ending should not define the whole.
If a relationship ends, it doesn’t nullify the beautiful moments that existed while it lasted.
If a person messes up, like humans tend to do, it doesn’t negate all the good they did.
While we acknowledge and learn from the bad, we shouldn’t forget that there was once good, and it was quite wonderful.
Rakhee Kissoon 