Saying No

‘No’ is an important word. It’s how we form necessary boundaries.
For many of us, when we were growing up, we weren’t allowed to say no. It was seen as rude and disrespectful, and, as such, we grew up without learning how to set boundaries allowing everyone to get a piece of us until we’re worn out and exhausted.
‘No’ is not disrespectful, it is self-respect. It is not allowing people into a space where you are uncomfortable. It is understanding when you cannot keep going.
Even more than that, it is important to also learn how to say no to yourself.
Most of us are very aware of our unhealthy habits and toxic cycles. We know when we need to stop and yet we continue with damaging behaviors.
If you’re trying to eat healthier, say no to yourself when you’re craving unhealthy food.
If you’re trying to break a pattern of substance abuse, say no when you start convincing yourself that it’s okay to have just one more.
If you’re moving on from someone, so no to yourself when you want to message, call, or meet that person.
If you’re working on a project, say no to yourself when you are tempted to relax or have fun during the time allotted for work.
Obviously, I’m not going to tell you what your homework is because you’ll probably tell me no. 😊
You know what you need to do, my friends.
Set those boundaries – with self and others.